After two days of serious frustration with my 3 oldest kids, Sam and I decided to have a family meeting and present a schedule for the summer. It’s pretty funny, because we didn’t really discuss the schedule before our meeting…and maybe it’s just the way my personality is, but I just love that he made it up and that was that. It seemed great to me…so today is our first day on the schedule. Of course, I have to be a little flexible with it, and it does allow for some flexibility, which is good. I am telling you that this is the way to go. Today I had so much less complaining and much better attitudes. There was no argueing when it was time for rest time, and I love this 45 minutes I get all to myself.
So here it is:
So here is our tentative schedule…
Up and dressed at 8:00.
Clean up and then play outside.
Homework, Journal, Reading and Chores
Lunch, 1 kid assigned to help prepare & clean up each day on rotating schedule, 12:00 – taking Kate Gosselin’s idea of a picnic lunch when we can…LESS CLEAN UP
1:15 Rest time – ON BEDS, sleeping or reading or listening to music
2:00-4:00 Free time which may include playing, art projects, extra jobs, DS. – Quiet Zones in effect while baby is napping.
4:00 – clean up from playing, get the house ready for Sam to come home
6:00ish – Dinner
7:30 – Baths and bedtime routine
9:00 bed (8:00 for baby)
I love that there is a lot of play time, so we could go do something fun or run errands, like this morning, after we were cleaned up from breakfast, all they had to do was get their shoes on and we were out the door to go to the credit union and got there even before they opened. It wasn’t so fun sitting there for almost an hour in one of the offices while we opened accounts for each of the kids. We gave them money for their grades on their report cards, and their school participates in a program with the CU where they will be able to deposit $ into savings at school. It wasn’t much fun, but they weren’t too bad, and afterwards we went to Target and got popcorn combos or slushies and everyone got a pair of flip flops for the summer. When we got home everyone wrote in their journals and then we got lunch ready. I thought it was a good morning (even though I was a little stressed at the CU).
I have printed up the schedule and posted it on the refrigerator so they can keep me on it, too.
I probably should mention that we have used the stoplight discipline system all year. This is something that they do at school, and we continue it at home. Bad choices mean consequences and it goes like this, 1 warning, then yellow light, another warning, then red light, The kids try to stay on Green light all day. Red light gets spankings, Green lights all week earn rewards. This goes for anywhere we are. So I made each kid an envelope with a hole cut out, and papers inside (red, green and yellow) to change accordingly if needed.
So that’s about it, oh and I am having the kids track on a calendar their days and which light they are on. They will color in the square appropriately for how they end the day. That’s how we will track for the rewards.
And I am also going to try making up some clothespins to clip on the bottom of their envelopes for positive behaviors they accomplish each day. It should be a nice visual reminder of their responsibilities…I am hoping. And these are easy enough to take down and take along with us when we go to the fairs and camp this summer. I will try to post a picture later for you.
Rest time is over…see ya